There can be a difference in the completely same action.
If I help somebody to pic up a paper they lost. The intention is to help the person. But if the base is egoism I do it because I want to be noticed as a kind person. But the problem is that I‘m also tricking myself. I do kind actions, I become gratitude as a return, everybody feels great, so I must be a kind person. Right? Other people see it. My mind thinks it. But it‘s not from the heart.
It is almost impossible to notice this on your own.
You need somebody who helps you to overthink your actions and to notice small things in your behavior.
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You change it for you!
If you act frome ego. People will have no problem with it, because all they are noticing is the exact same kind action.
Except a few who can feel what‘s going on inside you.
It’s about yourself. But not even your mind. No. It’s deeper. Your mind is tricking you. It is in your heart. You will notice it if your heart acts from the bright or the dark side. It feels different to me and I hope to you too.
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This ”will to help“ even if it is truely meant good can trick you.
If you mainly act from the dark side of your heart, you can end up with anger and a not understanding mind:
”All I want is to give but nobody is willing to take. Why is the world so mean to me?“
Now you are kind but sad.
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And thats the strange paradoxon how the same kind action can fulfill you or drain you at the same time.
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Do something kind without wanting anything in return. This also includes the wish to be seen as a kind person and gratitude. Not just matirial things.
And never try to force it.
Just live and use the opportunities you get.
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This all happens because we all want to be liked. We do good things in order to be liked. But do you think that there is a difference in some way if I do good things because I want the best for the other person and not just their attention?
I strongly believe so.
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Slowly I beginn to rethink my actions.
Are they based on generosity or ego?!
I‘m just at the beginning but now I see a walkable way.
-peace-
